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    The Algorithm Doesn't Know I've Been Married

    On being profiled by machines that never met your ex, and the strange grief of a fresh profile.

    June 14, 2026 · 2 min read

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    Second First Dates

    The peculiar theater of meeting a stranger at 43 and pretending you've never done this before.

    May 22, 2026 · 1 min read

  3. 01

    Custody of the Playlist

    Divorce comes for the assets you never thought to itemize.

    April 30, 2026 · 1 min read

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