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The Algorithm Doesn't Know I've Been Married
On being profiled by machines that never met your ex, and the strange grief of a fresh profile.
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Vol. I — Ongoing
Essays from the far side
of the wedding album.
A woman, forty-something, formerly married, learning the vocabulary of dating apps, second first dates, and shared playlists you can't quite bring yourself to delete.
Coming soon — the book
These essays are becoming a book.
Not My Match will collect and expand these essays into a hardcover memoir-in-parts — a field guide to being newly single, again, in a century that keeps insisting there's an app for that.
About the writer
"I got married once, thoroughly. Now I'm trying to figure out what comes next — and writing it down before I forget."
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